CJ

Not CJ 7 but Chief Judge,

Was quite nervous at 1st after volunteering as a CJ due to unknown.

Was quite stress over the unfilled judges seats, calling over 100people to look for just 5 judges. Unfortunately no one is available on that day which is today 280808.

I was calling, texting and emailing to all TM that I encounter…I try to search for those that are minimal contact with that club cause I knew that it is hard to judge due to bias and pre-conception..

For so long that I try and get judges, I was nervous as the day nearer and the judges are only 3 instead of 5..It would be unfair to the contestant if I could not find 5 TM out of so many TM. It is unfair to me as it will reflect bad on me..But don’t worry, last minutes I able to fill in all the 5 judges.

To be fair, the day wasn’t a good day as most of the TM are engaged in one thing or another. as far as I know, there are over 6 activities or contest going in DIV W, P and C.

Luckily I able to secured 5 instead of 3 judges, cause it is a tough decision to be make over the contestant at DU Advanced TMC contest.

As a CJ, nothing much of a excitement only a bit of curiousity cause I now can give the result to the contest chair instead of waiting for the result to be given by the CJ.

well at last, I think I’ve done a good job as a CJ for a first timer…I’m not a virgin anymore..YEAH!!!

To be a CJ is easy but to find quality judges is hard. Nevertheless, I’ve try my best…

Random question with random thought

My bro throw me a question, “what do you think about working life?why do you always seems energetic in your work?”

This got me into deep silent..*is a start of a Table Topic session again*

“I don’t think much about my work and I don’t seem to be that energetic either..I just pass a day and call it a day, if the work don’t kill you I guess everything will be fine…I’m just work to live and not live to work..If I’m the latter then only considered as enthusiastic about work..”

“an optimistic view” replied my sister..

come to think about it, yeah…there are not even a smooth sailing for a day at my work since I started but I do hang on..and to include my new role in Toast as a Area Governor(AG with 5 clubs under my care..I’m starting to feel tiredness..

but mental tiredness would not kill you unless you allow it to…I was quiet frustrated at the some level when I’m not supported or assisted by some club’s officer at 1st..He is mentally and spiritually unsatisfied of me being the new AG…WTF..

Life is full of “the others” so why would I care so much about them instead I should focus on what I’m doing, let alone he is preparing a showdown for me or preparing a speech for “8-10mins persuasion with power”…the objective is to make believe that I’m incapable and inexperience(Wtf..toastmasters is a org for the inexperience to become experience!)…Communication is never easy..sometimes silent is gold…

hehe..life still goes on..so if whoever is in my way..let it be..I only welcome those who wants to befriend..focus on good news..

for life..as long as I’m still alive..I won’t get too caught up with it(maybe just a few hours of imbalance emotions)..if I’m dying…what is there to worry..hehe..

Happy day ahead!

Ernest wong.

Titles and status is really the devils of all egos.

Titles and status is really the devils of all egos.

I recently gotten my titles;CC(after completing 10 speeches) and CL(Competent Leadership). After I’ve gotten my titles, I’ve stop giving new speeches or even plan to write a new speech. I’m afraid to fail, fail at my speeches. (Egoism)

Today I was badly defeated by the talented and better speakers in my club in the humorous speech and evaluation contest.(Is hard to accept defeats, but I think this time I handle it quite well.)This is mainly due to my laziness and my egoism.

I used my old speech “Clubbing” with the hope of getting a placing, I gave that speech before as I have no intention to write any new humorous speech.  I’ve limited myself in believing that is(clubbing) the best humorous speech that I have(Actually that is the only humorous speech I’ve done). Egoism had me again, afraid of feedbacks like “I like your clubbing speech better”.

When I decided to join the contest, it was out of fun and experience(of course want to win 1st place lar) but this time I’m not so enthusiastic compare to when I competing in the International speech contest at February 2007. (excuses to comfort my failure)

                                  

I often have the kind of feelings that if I present the same speech again, the enthusiasm and the excitement(of the speech) will not be the same way as the 1st time I presented.

If my speech didn’t receive good response from the audiences(1st time), I will find ways to improve it but if it was the other way(received good feedbacks), I will hesitate to change the speech, I want to keep the gist of it. Unfortunately my “clubbing” speech belongs to the latter. I hesitated to change my approach towards the subject. I refused to make a new speech. I want to stay in my comfort zone, to play safe.

So as a result, my defeats is not a surprise. This defeats is good for me because I need to start on my speeches again. I’ve stopped giving speeches for 2 months plus. After completing the CC title. I don’t feel like doing anymore speeches as I feel like I’ve reached another level(Cheh).

Now is good, defeats can brings me back to the start. Where I need to relearn the techniques of giving speeches. It reminded me that I need to back to my drawing board.

If titles builds egoism then defeats builds humble-ism. I want to go back to the drawing boards and relearn the techniques and be humble again.

I’ve no talents in speaking but I am willing to learn and improve. I’ve few things which I really work my ass out if I really want to be respected in toastmastery.

1. I need to improve on my grammar and my prepositions.
2. speech organization.
   
3. Improve my diction.

Cherry Popped!!!

That night was fantastic!!The attendance is great, the ambiance is perfect and the crowd is very responsive. What else you need from a dinner except all these. Thank you for those of you who are there that night!!!

To me a successful dinner,

1) Everyone there able to mix around, nobody left out.
2) The programs flows are smooth.
3) The ambiance is right for the occasion.
4) The feedbacks are encouraging.

I think the dinner achieved that.

                                              

Before that night I was so nervous; I received a message in the early morning just before my HELP meeting, “they cannot make it..”. My god, then only left with 25 in the dinner.

That would not be a good news to me, I’ve booked for 35pax and only 25pax is confirmed.

I was worried the whole afternoon while I was preparing the slides that I need to use during the dinner. Suddenly, I felt relief and a sense of achievement. (strange)

The feelings is quite weird, I suddenly felt I did something great. A sense of pride(cheh!) but don’t know where it comes from.

That night I seriously felt flattered because I saw all the members were talking and had a great time there. All are enjoying taking pictures and cheering through out the dinner.

I’m glad that I did receive some positive feedback from the guest that attended that night. “A perfect place for gathering” “A great success” ” well planned.” “Very enjoyable installation dinner”

                                                           

Well nevertheless, the dinner is not any great without the following people.

1) The invitation to outsider guests – Shu Wei.
Although she left me alone dealing with other stuff and let me hanging in the air because I was expecting her to help me more in organizing the dinner but I know she was too busy with her job..hehe, I’m just kidding, you helped me alot. lol..We have over 12 outsiders guests because of YOU!!

Thank you!

2) The door gifts – Tse Han, Hui Ven, Fong Wen & Jee Aik.
Now the door gift’s idea is from Tse Han with the help of others, we spent the whole afternoon to create the ultimate door gifts,Thank you. I don’t have the picture with me..but you can visit the HELP’s Blog Click Here.

For Hui Ven, Thank you for writing the small cards until 2am. hehe, you write very slow I must say, if not you won’t need to stay up until 2am.lol..

3) Presie for Games – Ee wern, John Lee and Chee Hoong.
Yes, EE Wern did help the presie, although she missing for quite sometime, I called her up and asked for her help right after she just got back from JAP. Thank you.

Thank you Chee Hoong and John lee for the presie as well. Now only I know guys can wrap present better than girls, hehe..Thanks for the help.

4) Games- Joyce.
Thank you Joyce for taking up the Games session. It is indeed a very fun session and is my favorite game; touching!..lol, but next time find a female can ar?

5) Karen;
Although nothing in specific but Karen helped thru out the dinner especially the lucky draw session. Thank you and you looked damn gorgeous that night..lol..

All the helps are voluntary, they helped without hesitation and they responded to my cry for help. Thank you!!

Oh, nearly missed out. Thank you Emily for your ideas and suggestion for the dinner, you are the sweetest thing.

To all the guests and members that arrived that night. Thank you for coming and enjoying yourself there, the only thing that makes a organizer feel glad is to see everyone in the dinner enjoying themselves.

Thank you.

The juicy cherry- popped!!!!!!!

HELP TMC meeting and Thoughts on new TMC

Last week HELP TMC meeting was fantastic, the meeting is fruitful and meaningful.

We had over 10 visitors that came from all different clubs and the furthest came from Terengganu, Lekor TMC (pioneer in Terengganu!)

After the meeting, we had lunch at the KFC and there I got to know the President of ADC TMC “age”.

But the best part is the TLI training, the training is for the club officers that are newly installed. In there we had ideas from over 40 clubs representatives, about 200 people there.

This term onwards, there’s over 5 clubs in Pusat Bandar Damansara alone; HELP, KPMG, E&Y, MII and HP. wow, now is really where ever you go, you will sure land yourself a club. Out the 5 Clubs, HP and KPMG is a new club.

After all the clubs are charted, one question that came into my mind; the surviving of the club is far more challenging than the chartering of a new club. The quality of the members, the quality of the meetings and etc etc.

The culture of the club is another issue that needs to be noted, the mentor’s culture will definitely influenced the new club’s culture. So it is necessary to choose a good mentor (leadership skills and communications skills) to lead. For the best, I think we should have few mentors for one new club.